Mom guilt, the struggle is real. Moms of typical children experience the phenomenon of not feeling quite good enough. If you are a mother to a child or children with complex medical needs, the “Mom Guilt,” can occur much more often.
In this post, I am going to explain my personal “Mom Guilt,” and try to give us some tools to overcome this terrible feeling. Mom guilt can cause us to feel paralyzed, depressed, anxious, and down right whitchy (or use the female dog word).
I was the mom that never ever wanted to medicate my kids. Working at a day care before children, where toddlers sported Ritalin Patches, made me completely disapprove of the parents getting their kids help.
Today, all four of my children are on multiple medications. However, “Mom Guilt,” plagues me often. Other parents chide that they will not invest in big pharma. They express it would break their hearts to see their kids medicated.
My answer to this is, “La Dee Freaking Da!” Look at my kid on medicines. They no longer destroy the house in anger. No more is vomiting when distressed. Currently, my kids sleep much better on medicines. Thus, I am glad my kids are becoming more than I thought they would become while under the influence of medications. Boom! Enough said. I posted more about this subject Medicines, I Thank You.
This one might be confusing. I fight “Mom Guilt,” because we have had some instances of one kid taking another kid’s medicines on accident.
I used to lay out all the medicines in piles on our kitchen island. One horrid evening, my sixteen year old SON, took his then, seventeen year old daughter’s medicines. This included a birth control pill. (She takes it to help regulate her girl cycle. Don’t jump to conclusions.).
Consequently, I called poison control. They said son would be ok. But, I felt awful.
Other times, kids have taken more than one Zoloft or something else. In times as these I always call Poison Control. Then, I figure better solutions to dispensing medicines.
To this, I tell my self that I am doing the best I can. Changing to better routines and safety measures, shows me that I am learning from mistakes. The goal is to not let history repeat itself. “Guilt,” is snuffed out with such actions. Yay! Learn more about this in the post: Locked: Sharps, Meds, and Cleaners – Oh My.
Diabetes brings “Mom Guilt,” on steroids. Everyone says that we couldn’t give our kids diabetes, but every single mom I know doubts this fact.
My “Mom Guilt” really kicks in with checking blood sugar. When Champ was first diagnosed at four, he couldn’t check his own blood sugar. Whenever I couldn’t get enough blood out, I felt so terrible. Today, it doesn’t bother me. I only try again.
“Mom Guilt” is relentless with giving insulin especially when I give too much. Another “Guilt” moment comes when I do not insert his pumps and Continuous Glucose Monitors correctly.
Sometimes I have forgotten to remove the sticky paper, so I have to prick him twice. Other times, I forget a step and the devices don’t stay in like they should.
The solution to all this is for me to stay present. As long as I’m not trying to multi-task with diabetes, I am assured I’m doing the best I can.
Solutions to “Mom Guilt,” come from giving ourselves the same kindness that we would give others. Forgiving ourselves of past mistakes is vital to us being good moms. Read more: Shine: Caregiver Encouragement.
In forgiving ourselves, I think we come to terms that we are doing the best we can. We give ourselves the same benefit of the doubt that we give others.
Another key is to stay in the moment. No multi tasking. I wrote more about this in the post: One Life Changing Tweak.
Good self-care is another great antidote to “Guilt.” Taking time for caring for me, invests in myself. Investing into me makes the negative feelings, thoughts, and associations disappear. You can read more about this in the post: 7 Super Speedy, Easy Self Care Keepers. (This falls under being kind to yourself).
See the infographic on Freedom Over Mom Guilt. Share this on all your social media. It may help someone else.
One way to tackle “Mom Guilt,” is to talk about it. Getting it out in the open is often healing. Tell us your biggest “Guilt,” moments in the comments below.
As we close, never forget that I think you are amazing! We are all doing the best we can.
Thank you for stopping by today. Please come again soon. Blessings to you and yours today and always,