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Not Everyone’s Cup of Tea

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We Can’t Be Everyone’s Cup of Tea

Dear Caregiver/Parent:

Everyone’s Cup of tea is not me.  It isn’t you either because we aren’t a jar of Nutella.  If someone doesn’t love us, it isn’t something to get bent out of shape about.  Each of us have our cups of tea or our tribe.

Our tribe responds to our vibe.  So we magnetize who we want around us.  Like begets like.  Even though we aren’t everyone’s “cup of tea,” there are those who will love us.

There will be doctor’s, teachers, therapists, other parents, and more who will not approve.  It is bound to happen.  When it does, let’s be prepared.  Preparation will help us handle the emotions that come with rejection.

Finding the Right Folks

The right folks will be there for us.  Sometimes our behavior might drive those “right” people away.  I am constantly doing quick life checks, making sure I am somebody I would want to hang around.

Often we need to do little tweaks, to assure the right people stay in our life.  Tweaks include: better listening, not talking about ourselves so much, being quick to respond and support, keeping good healthy boundaries, being a giver, and more.

When we are a great friend, others will be there for us as well.  Caregiver, we can’t please everybody though and that is ok.

Fighting the Urge

Fight the urge to change, adapting to be everyone’s cup of tea.  The moment we morph into who we think others want us to be is the exact time that we lose ourselves.  Be authentic.  The right folks will be there along the way.

The urge will come to impress others.  Let that urge go.  Life is not a competition where we work for approval.

If people don’t approve, move on.  The only relationships I want that are based on merit are those in my job.

The true friends get me: flaws, mistakes, and all.  Be around those who celebrate us, not tolerate us.

Stay True to You

Sure it is good to be kind.  Sprinkle kindness around like confetti, but not to get praise or acclamation.  Do it because you want to help others.

In doing this, not out of a heart that wants a head nodding in agreement, but out of pure desire to pay it forward, there is confidence.  If we take actions only for acclamation, our lives will always be drowning in insecurity.

When we are us.  Truly, us and not anything else.  Then, we are free to be.  There is no struggle.  Confidence is exuded because we are all in.  We are showing up – that’s it plain and simple.

We aren’t trying to vie for position.  There isn’t an attempt to do better than anyone else.  The freedom is in being, us and nothing else.

When Others Reject Us

Rejection will come.  Even flipping Jesus Christ was rejected by those in His own home town and by the religious people.  We can never please everybody!

So when people make it clear, we are not their cup of tea; I encourage us to merely move on.  They weren’t destined for us.  We are not their people and we are not theirs.

Find our tribe.  That’s where we will excel.  Our tribe are our loyal friends who show up.  Celebrate them always.  Be thankful for them.  Treat our tribe well.

Just as not everyone is our cup of tea, we can’t be everyone’s either.  The right people stay in our life.  Some come and go, but the ones who stay; treasure forever.

The Karma

When we treat others right, we will slowly see that others treat us right as well.  It won’t happen over night.  The karma of reaping good takes time.

Slowly, you will see, the good seeds will bring a harvest.  Enjoy the journey as it unfolds with your people.  Be with them.

When others decide we aren’t their cup of tea, just know what goes around comes around.  Let their lack of attention fall off of us like water off a duck’s back.  It will be ok, it really will.

Ending

Keep in mind, not one of us can please everybody.  Thus, why try to please?  Live your life the way you see as best.

Be kind to ourselves when we fail.  Most importantly, keep going even if we aren’t their cup of tea.

Thanks for being here today.  I can assure you, that you are my cup of tea.  I celebrate you, Caregiver, even when others may not.  For more on this subject please read: Find Your Tribe.

Please come again soon.  In the mean time, blessings to you and yours today and always,

– Jenn

jenn
jenn

I live in Columbus, Ohio USA, grown up here all my life. I love yoga, walking, riding bike, reading, bargain shopping, serving at church. Usually though, I’m napping in a doctor’s office waiting area with one or two of the Fantastic Four Children. My passion is helping other families with extra health, behavioral, and learning issues like mine. Let’s enjoy life… TOGETHER. It’s more fun that way =)!

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