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Why: No Time For That!

Why, no time for Why. Sometimes it is better to embrace what is instead of asking so many questions and getting stuck. Caregiver Support. Real Help.


Why ask why?  There really is not time for that, asking why.  I have thought this for some time, but recently had it confirmed as I listened to Joel Osteen messages.

Life is confusing.  Often we come across experiences that make no sense.  History proves unfair at many crossroads.

Yet, we wonder what the underlying cause was.  There are often more questions that come from experiences than answers.  Some of these questions might include: why me, what did that happen for, what caused this, what did I do wrong?


Many times I have thought of the story about the houses in the Bible.  There were two houses, one was built on the rock, the other built on sand.  The revelation that comes to my mind is that the storms came to both houses.  This says to me, none of us are devoid of storms in life.

The other Bible verse which Pastor Osteen quoted is that rain comes to both the just and the unjust (Matthew 5:45).  We know that the sun can’t shine forever or all we would have is desert lands.  We need seasons of rain too.

Skip the Questions

I love the quote that Pastor Osteen has stated, “Don’t put a question mark where God placed a period.”  Too many times we get stuck in question mode and it gets us just that: STUCK!

When we go through a storm: sickness, loss, divorce, demotion, job loss, etc; many times the most healthy path we can take is to recognize a season has ended and move on.  We need to drop it right there and believe, “God has better plans for us.”

Trusting does not include questioning often.  Trust comes from embracing what is, believing that God/The Universe (whatever you call Him), is going to make everything work out.

Living Life Lighter

At these times, when we embrace the period instead of asking, “Why.”  Our life can be so much more free and lighter.  We don’t need to needle around and come up with every nuance of solution.  Life is easier simply moving forward.

When we embrace what is, trusting better things are on the way (Ecclesiastes 7:8), we are at peace.  We don’t have to control or manipulate things in our own strength.  It is simply us walking life out, trusting that God has us.  He makes a way where there seems to be no way.

A Story of Letting Go

I had not heard this until I listened to Joel Osteen, but he spoke about President James Garfield.  President Garfield was shot in the back, but the bullet was never found.  In that day doctor’s believed bad things would happen to the body if a bullet was not removed.

Thus, President Garfield went through several surgeries to recover the bullet.  When he died, President Garfield did not pass from the initial gun shot wound.  No, he passed from infection that came as a result of the probing surgeries to recover the bullet.

The moral to this story: often it is better to leave things alone.  Don’t search so hard.  Accept what is and move on.  Life is too short to get stuck questioning, looking, searching.

In Our Lives

Our lives could be like President Garfield’s.  Many of us have loved ones who have extra needs.  Our lives seem unfair.  Instead of trying to find the cure to autism or even perhaps more difficult, the cause of it; what if we only embrace our kids and enjoy them as they are?

Instead of wondering why we lost a job, why our marriages didn’t last, why some people don’t like us.  What if we confidently moved forward with quiet trust filling our perspective?

As Parents

For me as a mom, nothing burns my biscuits faster than my kid’s constantly questioning my instructions with, “Why?”  Hearing that makes Tabasco sauce climb up my legs fast!  Why? because my kids are doubting my instruction.

I bet God feels the same way, when we wonder why things are happening.  Sometimes, we have to realize that we don’t have all the information.  All we know is our little spot in the big universe.  It almost always makes sense one day.

Wrap Up

It is very good to embrace the periods in life instead of emphasizing the questions.  Is there any area you are stuck questioning?

For me,  I have wondered why so many bad things have happened to me: I’m a divorcee, a suicide survivor, my four kids have been diagnosed with so many things, we have had a tough run.

However, I have decided God is making it all into something beautiful.  He has a purpose in it all.  I’m letting go of all my questions.  The decision that He has me at the right place at the right time is making me feel more joyful, more expectant of good things.

Try giving up some of your hang ups too.  It feels good to live lighter.

What areas do you need to put a period in by stop questioning it?  Please comment below.  Thanks for stopping by today, please come again soon.  Blessings to you and yours, today and always,


PS If you want, listen to a couple of the messages I referred to in this post: Drop It and Don’t Waste Your Pain.  For another post that may also help you, see: Five Facts to a Floating Life.


I live in Columbus, Ohio USA, grown up here all my life. I love yoga, walking, riding bike, reading, bargain shopping, serving at church. Usually though, I'm napping in a doctor's office waiting area with one or two of the Fantastic Four Children. My passion is helping other families with extra health, behavioral, and learning issues like mine. Let's enjoy life... TOGETHER. It's more fun that way =)!

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